RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

The Lifestyle is about subtlety and discretion

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• ASK BEFORE YOU TOUCH. ASK ONCE AND ONLY ONCE

• The Golden Rule: “NO means NO”. Anyone may say “NO” for any reason at any time even if you are in the middle of a swinging encounter and have changed your mind and want to stop it right there! If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say “No”. Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will just because you are afraid to say no. The friendliest way is to say, “Oh, no thank you, but thanks for asking”. Be honest initially, and you will avoid any misunderstandings. Don’t forget that people’s attitudes change and who knows? Maybe sometime in the future, you may meet again with a different opinion.

• Deal with jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical & recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.

• Always let your steady partner know she/he is number one. Arrive together, take time to caress them, touch base often, it makes one feel secure. And always leave together.

• Use your common sense and good judgment when you are involved in a swinging situation. Be kind, thoughtful, and sensitive. Swingers, couples & single guys are people and have feelings too!!!

• Honor any and all prior understandings & rules you have made between each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.

• Respect the guidelines you set as a couple and communicate them to prospective partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming relationships! And please don’t forget to respect the guidelines of others. Don’t try to “talk them into” changing the rules because you don’t happen to agree with them!

• Pay attention to body language. There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy and excited.

• ARRIVE TOGETHER AND LEAVE TOGETHER

• NO CELL PHONE USE IN PLAY AREAS

• DO NOT OPEN CLOSED DOORS

• Expectations of Privacy
  I've already said people are weird, but they're even stranger about this part. Sure, they're at a swingers club and they are swapping partners, but they may still want their privacy. Fortunately, doors make this particular problem easy to solve. Simple rules apply here:
  Open/no door - If you don't mind people watching you play, or having people ask to join in, take your group to a room with no door, or to a room with a door, left wide open. An open door is just that -- an invitation to watch or participate. You can always say "no" if someone tries to join your group whom you don't like, and a group can always say "no" if you ask to join but they don't want you to. Still, it's perfectly acceptable here to ask.
  Cracked door - If you don't mind people watching you play, but you don't want anyone joining in, leave the door cracked open. This is the universal "look, but don't touch" symbol; you can nudge the door open enough to peek in, but it's expected you won't join in or ask to. On some occasions, if someone peeking in looks interesting, they'll be invited in anyway, but it's expected that you'll leave groups alone and just watch unless explicitly invited.
  Closed door - If you don't want any intrusions, keep the door closed entirely. If you're wandering through a club and spot a closed door, leave it that way. Sometimes a door will have a small window in it, and it's okay to peek through this, but otherwise, leave it alone. Don't open the door to peek in, don't knock to invite yourself into their party, etc. If you do, be prepared for a scolding and a stern "no".

• CLEAN UP YOUR OWN MESS

• NUDITY Nudity is allowed everywhere but in the buffet area. However, men are only allowed to be nude when they are actively involved in the play, on a bed, or waiting their turn at the orgy bed. Simply, men can not walk around the club nude, that includes partially nude. Women can be nude when walking around as long as shoes are worn

• COUPLES A couple is two people. For polyamory couples this still applies. If you are bringing more than one partner in then you will need to pay for the third person as a single (we understand that you are technically not single).

• AGE REQUIREMENT You must be 18 years old with proper ID

• ACCEPTED PAYMENT Payment for entry, membership, and merchandise is cash or credit card.  Personal checks will not be accepted.

• FORMS OF ACCEPTABLE PAYMENT We accept Cash, oxxo, PayPal, Payment Installment, Visa, MasterCard, and Discover.

• REFUNDS No refunds given if you have been ejected for behavior and/or any other reason.

• SINGLE MALES Single Males are permitted on Saturdays AND ARE ONLY ALLOWED INTO PLAY AREAS WHEN ESCORTED BY A COUPLE OR FEMALE.

• Drugs No drugs are allowed on the premise.  You will be banned if you do bring drugs.

• Dangerous or Dirty play is not permitted.  This is not a place for pain or bodily fluids

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1. No Means NO! No exceptions! Zero Tolerance! Without Attitude! -                                                                          

2. Age of consent 18. This is the age at which an individual can legally consent to sexual intercourse under any circumstances;

3. Ask before touching. Verbal consent is important! Sexual assault/harassment is real and will be taken seriously. 

4. Respect those who wish to be left alone. Do not be pushy or insistent upon participation in any individual or club activities. No harassment! 

5. All members are to be treated with common courtesy and respect. 

6. The main objective of 21st Century S3X is discretion. We expect that what goes on in 21st Century S3X stays at 21st Century S3X!

7. Absolutely no illegal drugs, overindulgence of alcohol, or fighting are ever allowed. 

8. We advise a 21st Century S3X at a private party and help keep members safe. The privacy of members is protected. 

9. Please respect the privacy and discretion of others. 

10. Respect Sexual orientation 

11. Must be a member to attend events; purchase tickets to events in advance. 

12. PURCHASE IN ADVANCE ONLINE BEFORE ATTENDING AN EVENT. CREDIT CARDS NOT ACCEPTED AT THE DOOR.

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Your Privacy

At 21st Century S3X, we understand the need for discretion and privacy, and we take this responsibility as one of our highest priorities. Please take a moment to read these important details regarding private membership.

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Membership applications must be completed by each person requesting membership or guest entrance. Each person must disclose his or her true and legal identity upon making an application for 21st Century S3X membership. This information is kept confidential and is not shared with any outside party unless there is a legally compelling reason to provide such information to an agency that makes a legal request.

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While we understand that some may not wish to disclose their legal identification, we will not grant membership or access to those who refuse to provide this information.

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Your true identity is used to provide protection to all members, and in turn provides a level of additional privacy and protection for yourself. We maintain your true name, date of birth, and identification number on file. This information may be used from time to time to run our membership base against public predatory sex offenders databases, to help ensure that 21st Century S3X is free from registered sexual predators. Additional use of true identity assists us in ensuring that those who are banned from 21st Century S3X for any reason do not have a reasonable way to re-join under a different name.

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Membership Questions

Before you come for your first visit to 21st Century S3X please fill out the online waiver found on our membership page.

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On your first visit remember to bring in your picture ID. Your membership will be finalized once you come in and register on location at 21st Century S3X. It will go something like this:

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Fill out the online waiver
Review the membership option
Bring in your picture ID
Purchase your membership online only.

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